Have you noticed just how comfortable everything seems to be, nowadays? We almost never notice it, because we’re so focused on getting more things that make us feel good, but, the truth is, we’ve built an entire society around the fact that we hate feeling uncomfortable.
More and more, technology adapts to our needs; ads display exactly what we want to see; houses get more and more comfortable and adjust to our every desire… It’s like we’re terrified of experiencing things that are unpleasant. On most situations, we’ve even traded what is right for what feels good – case in point, think of the amount of people that go for junk food for every meal without thinking twice.
But if this was not bad enough, look at the amount of people that have given up on their dreams for fear of being uncomfortable. You see, people say the fear is in leaving the comfort zone… What they don’t understand is that the fear is actually in staying inside it.
Here’s what you need to be really mindful of, next time you decide to stay inside your comfort zone:
What The Comfort Zone Really Is
When we talk about the comfort zone, we usually refer to it because, for some reason, we’re scared to leave it. But have you noticed that, with so much talk on the “fear of leaving the comfort zone”, the fear only appears when we’re in it? The minute we step out of it, instead, we begin to feel this liberating energy fill our bodies, making us feel like we can do anything… It’s not until we’re back on it again that fear takes the best of us.
So, what does this tell us about the comfort zone, then? Well, it tells us that the comfort zone isn’t so much about being comfortable… As it is about the fear of being uncomfortable. It’s about remaining stuck in a “fear zone”. Which, sadly, means never experiencing the amazing things waiting for us outside.
In its essence, that’s what the comfort zone is. It’s just a coping mechanism controlled by our ego to keep us stuck in fear.
What You Really Do To Yourself When You Choose To Stay Inside Your Comfort Zone
Nobody needs to tell you that staying inside the comfort zone can be very negative for someone trying to reach their dreams. What most people don’t realise, however, is that there’s more to it than just being “negative”. In fact, there’s a whole set of problems that come from staying where it is safe.
If you usually let your fear of leaving the comfort zone take the best of you, you’ll want to know the long term consequences of that decision:
It Pays A Toll On Your Self-Image
Staying inside our comfort zone doesn’t just affect how we see the world, and the chances we take. It affects how we see ourselves too. And when we stop taking risks for fear, our confidence, self-esteem, and even self-acceptance feel the weight of that decision.
Think of it this way: The more we do with our lives, the more we feel capable of doing; On the other side of the spectrum, the less we do, the less we believe we can handle. And, so, we keep going down this cycle up to a point we either feel terrified of doing anything – or decide we’re done with being scared and starting moving towards our goals.
Either way, being or not inside the comfort zone, will have a major impact on how we see ourselves.
You Lose Touch With Yourself
Have you ever considered what a dream really is? No, it isn’t just a distant plan you would like to accomplish one day; It isn’t just a fantasy of something you’d like to do for yourself either. A dream is a calling.
Our dreams are like the ignition points to our soul. That’s why we feel so inspired and connected when we follow them.
Now, in life, we can only truly be led by two things: love or fear. Either we let fear guide us, in which case, we hold tightly to everything we have in fear of losing it; Or we choose love and allow our souls to guide us towards our real purpose in life.
But, guess which emotion we act on when we decide to stay on our comfort zone. By acting out of fear, we not only stop going after our dreams, we shut our inner voices down too. And fear is also the cause of most of the world problems we face today, by the way. Because, in truth, fear is in the root of all violence, hate, anger and need for power.
You Let Your Ego Get The Best Of You
Whether you like it or not, where fear resides, ego follows. So, it’s natural that, whenever we feel scared or anxious, our ego starts telling us all the reasons why we shouldn’t do something.
But, do you know what the worst part is? The worst part of it all isn’t that ego will lead us to give up on something we’d like to do. The worst part is that whenever we let ego win once – it becomes twice as difficult to overcome it.
By any chance, do you have trouble getting out of bed in the morning? If so, why is that? See, the reason why so many people have trouble getting up in the morning is because that first time they needed to wake up early, they told themselves “nah, just five more minutes…” and hit the snooze button. And, since then, it’s become more difficult to get out of bed in time because they let ego win in all the other times.
Consider this next time you shrug it off and decide to stay those extra five minutes in bed…
You Lose The Opportunity Of Your Life
Now, all the other things aside, let’s go back to basics. When you let fear, and your comfort zone take the best of you – you lose the opportunity of your life!
If the other consequences don’t cause you to reconsider staying inside your comfort zone, knowing you’d be losing the chance to live a happy, fulfilling and exciting life should…
You probably know people that chose to stay inside their comfort zones, right? How are their lives like? Would you prefer to have that over an adventurous life, filled with a handful of experiences that would help you grow? My best guess is that you wouldn’t.
See, it doesn’t really matter where we all are in life, at this moment. Because we all have the chance to turn it around and create the best possible future. What really matters is whether or not we choose to do it. And choosing to do it – depends on whether or not we stop being paralysed by fear.
So, evaluate what it is you truly want for your life because, as Walt Disney said:
“All our dreams can come true, if only we have the courage to pursue them.”