Is it common for you to overthink things? Do you often find yourself thinking of something you did two years ago which still brings you bad memories and a bad feeling? Do you tend to criticize yourself often and resort to playing the blame game with yourself?
Sadly, this is a common reality for a lot of people. Nowadays, with the demands of everyone around us, their expectations and their “tough love”, we’ve become our own worst critics. In turn, this may take its toll on our lives: Lower our self-esteem, make it hard for us to trust others, lead us to believe that we’re alone and there isn’t anyone we can count on, especially when we feel no one really understands what we’re going through. Even worse is that this may really cause us to distance ourselves from the people who really care about us, perpetuating those negative feelings.
Fortunately, however, there are several things you can do to turn this around on its head. Below, there is a list of suggestions that may help you get through difficult moments and, not only improve your self-esteem and self image, but also make your relationships much more enjoyable.
Have you ever tried meditating? More and more people have been choosing this method to help them solve their own inner conflicts. And, honestly, with good reason! Meditation has many known benefits and can not only improve your state of mind and make you feel calmer, as well as make you more relaxed and in tune with yourself, benefit your body, like helping to heal injuries faster; benefit your health, like strengthening your immune system; and benefit your memory and many, many other things. Here are 36 more of those benefits in case you still need convincing!
Many people resort to antidepressants to shut down all the negative self talk, when in fact there are many other better solutions out there, which don’t give them the secondary effects that are actually worse for their health! By taking some time off to meditate we’re giving our body something that is actually good for us, we’re leaving our worries aside for a few minutes, disconnecting our brain from the problems and we’re allowing ourselves to connect with who we really are.
How do you think it would be like for you if, for a few minutes, you could leave all the worries behind, close your eyes, and begin to feel that sense of calm and peace? How would it be like for you to simply shut down the voices that keep demanding things from you and focus only on finding inner peace and love?
The great thing is that, by meditating, all of this is possible!
It will not only make you feel in a better mood, it will improve your health and even make you feel more in tune with yourself when there is a conflict with someone else, for example.
Now, as you can imagine, this is the testimony of the millions of people who already practice it, to really know the benefits of meditation, you may need to try for yourself and see the positive results this has on you.
Another great thing to help us feel much better and solve some inner conflicts is exercise. To take some time off of our days to exercise, even if it is just 30 minutes to do some Yoga or any other sport you may like, can actively improve your well being.
It helps to reduce stress; releases endorphins in the body which are responsible for making us feel happy and excited; improves our self-confidence; the way we see ourselves and our bodies; even gives us the chance to spend some time in nature, instead of the usual going-home, going-to-work routine. It’s a breath of fresh air and definitely benefits our state of mind. If you’re not a big fan of exercising, there are still plenty of things you can do that will help.
Dancing is a great way of exercising, and it can simply be done for fun when you’re alone or in the midst of friends. Scratch that – dance wherever you like! It’s good for you and definitely shows you’re one of a kind!
Laughing is a great exercise too! You’re not only working out the muscles on your face, you’re also working on your abs. Plus, laughing also releases endorphins and makes you feel more cheerful.
There is plenty you can do, even if exercise isn’t your favourite thing in the world. And I’m sure there are plenty of normal activities that, if done more regularly, would make you feel on top of the world – such as these two.
This one could perhaps be the most important one. It acts on the root of the inner conflict, which may have to do with what is making you feel bad, and allows you to really work on it from the source.
When a conflict surfaces, there’s always a problem behind it. That’s why it “surfaces” – it was already beneath the surface, and something triggered it to come out. The same thing happens when there’s an inner conflict.
It is common for this to be a negative belief we hold about ourselves. Have you ever felt like you weren’t good enough? Like you aren’t attractive enough? Have you ever felt, deep down, you didn’t deserve to be happy? Perhaps you were told this by your family, or people close to you, when you were still really young and perhaps you thought they could’ve been right, because they knew better…
First of all, it is important that you realise this simply isn’t true. And you must understand what a belief about yourself really is: an idea you believe, or think is true, about yourself. An idea. Have you heard that, before the 16th century, people believed the sun circulated around the Earth? They spent centuries believing something that could seem like it was true, but indeed, it wasn’t. A negative self belief isn’t so different from that. And the resemblance is in the fact that just because something might seem true, it doesn’t mean it is.
Above everything else, the power to be “enough”, to be happy, to do and achieve great deeds, is within you. And the way to tap into that is as simple as what stops you from reaching it. What you believe about yourself.
If you believe one day you will have changed something in this world, achieved something you desire with every fibre of your being, and you work relentlessly to get there, no matter how much it takes, you will get there.
“It is never a matter of what is possible. It is only a matter of when.”
So, the way to touch the core of what stops you is to know what keeps you from achieving something. Do you feel there is something holding you back? There is something that stops you from getting something, from doing something?
Realise that the real only thing stopping you from achieving everything you want, is you. Therefore you have every opportunity to take that power back. It only depends of what you tell yourself.
Like everything else, when there is a conflict, there is a thought process. Usually this one is negative, which causes the conflict to aggravate afterwards. The way to really stop ourselves from creating a problem is by doing the opposite process we did to create it.
If you believe you aren’t good enough, challenge yourself. Prove yourself you are; work on the things you love and show yourself you can do so much more than you ever thought possible. If you believe you aren’t attractive enough, learn what it really is that makes you attractive to people. (This may help)
The power is within you to change everything you believe you can’t do; and turn it into everything you, one day, will.