If you’ve been together for a while, you may feel he doesn’t seem to be into you as much as he did. You remember the long nights talking, the frequent texts and the passionate nights. You try different things to spice things up, but nothing seems to work. The man you’re in love with seems to be growing more and more distant and you don’t know what to do.
You’re certainly not the first woman to be in this position. In fact, so many women have, they’ve started spreading the rumour men naturally lose interest after a while. Of course, you can listen to those women. It’ll certainly make you feel better, thinking that’s just in his nature and there was nothing you could have done.
Or you can learn the way men’s minds actually work and find out exactly what it was that all those women did wrong.
All men need all three of these ingredients to be present in the relationship for them to be able to love the woman they’re with. In the beginning of the relationship, it most certainly was present, but because women don’t know what these igredients are nor their importance, over time they forget them and in the process cause men to drift away.
Warning Signs A Man Is No Longer In Love
Before we go into the ingredients themselves, it’s important we know how to identify if one of these ingredients is missing.
Some signs are easier to spot than others, but they may also be harder to draw conclusions from. For example, if a man suddenly seems less interested in sex, this may be a clear sign he’s losing interest… Or it may just mean he’s dealing with a lot of stress at work.
If he’s talking to you less and less, it may be a sign; but he may also just be upset over something you did. Fortunately, there’s a simple way to know if he’s still in love with you, or if his interest is fading…
Instead of looking for any one particular sign, look for all of them. If he’s distant, cold, less interested in sex, spends less time talking to you, etc, then it may be time to up your ante.
Besides all of those common signs, the most powerful one will be his frustration. How easily does he get frustrated with you? Has he suddenly lost his patience with you? If so, it may very well be because he’s struggling to figure out what he’s feeling about you.
When men start losing interest, they don’t know why. You may notice he’s been more distant, that you talk less, that you have sex less and all of the easy to spot warning signs. But when you ask him what’s wrong or why he’s been growing distant of late, he really has no clue. He’s not in touch with his feelings enough to know that – and that’s why he’s really getting frustrated.
Fortunately, if you know what’s missing, he doesn’t need to.
For men, love and respect are two concepts that are very much entwined. So much so, in fact, that it’s impossible for them to feel love without respect. However, it’s a very specific and particular kind of respect that borders on admiration.
Put simply, a man cannot feel loved by a woman if he doesn’t feel she admires him or a particular trait about him. In his mind, if you don’t admire him, there’s no reason why you should love him.
Because women don’t experience love this way, it’s often easy to forget/ignore showing their partner how much you admire them.
If you spend a lot of time praising other people but never state or successfully demonstrate how much you admire him, this may very well be the reason he’s falling out of love with you. Add this simple ingredient and he should fall right back in love with you.
This is something a lot of women don’t understand and why most end up failing to preserve the love in the relationship.
If it’s easy, it’s not worth it. If he doesn’t work for it, he doesn’t appreciate it.
Think back to when you were getting to know one another, when he was seducing you. Remember playing a little hard to get? Remember the times you wanted to kiss him, but held out? That was tension – and it made that first night so much more special, didn’t it?
How is it like now? How are you like now? Are you easy and dull? Or teasing and seductive?
You see, if there’s no tension, there’s no effort, there’s no game and, ultimately, there’s no interest.
As covered above, men associate love and respect very deeply, so if there’s no tension, there’s no respect and, consequently, no love…
Fortunately, bombarding your partner with tension is easy so long as you know you need to do it. Make him work for it a little bit, tease him, send him a flirty text and pretend you’re a couple of teenagers in love again. Build enough tension and he won’t be able to resist you.
One of the natural consequences of a man drifting apart is that the woman responds by growing cold and distant, herself.
This leads to the lack of another vital ingredient men need to feel in love – your femininity.
When a woman grows cold, shuts herself off and becomes essentially more stoic, she is, in truth, supressing the very things that makes her a truly beautiful woman – passion, energy, love and life.
A woman who knows how to live deeply, passionately and freely is one of the most beautiful things in the Universe.
Men aren’t all that good dealing with emotion, and that’s precisely why he loves being with you so much is because you are. Somehow, you can make him feel deep and powerful positive emotions. You can make the simple moments feel like a dream. And he loves you for it.
Women who shut off their emotion, their passion and freedom, stifle men’s ability to feel those emotions with them – and they naturally drift away.
If you want him to be addicted to you, simply show him your admiration for him, make him work a little to get you, let go and have fun.